This Too Shall Pass

by Janet Ong Zimmerman on 10/22/2013

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If you’re trying to salvage your relationship, in the midst of the breakup, letting go of a relationship that’s over, or mending a broken heart, it is hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. In these situations, it can feel as if things will never get better. But time eventually heals and this too shall pass.

You are Stronger Than You Think You Are

To help move forward with more ease, may these quotes along with my interpretation, help you realize that the difficult situation you’re in, will make you stronger and better.

If Things Are Meant to Be, They Will Be

“If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours, if not it wasn’t meant to be.” – Anonymous

If things aren’t working out with a guy you really like or love, and he wants to leave, don’t try to convince or manipulate him to stay with you. Forcing someone to stay will cause resentment or infidelity. Instead, let him go. While he’s gone, he will realize he made a mistake and come back for you. Or he will realize that you’re better off apart.

What’s Broken Can’t be Fixed

“I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new. What is broken is broken, and I’d rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken pieces as long as I lived.” – Margaret Mitchell

No matter how hard you try to make a relationship work, sometimes things are better left as is. If both of you don’t have the desire to fix your relationship, it is beyond repair. Fixing a relationship takes commitment and work from both people. If you or your partner feels like one person is doing all the work to improve the relationship, one or both of you will be resentful.

Keep Your Loved Ones Close

“No matter who broke your heart, or how long it takes to heal, you’ll never get through it without your friends.” – Oscar Wilde

Loved ones, such as your friends and family, can make the difference in how well you recover or if you stay stuck. Surround yourself with supportive people that you can turn to during this difficult time. If you’re unable to move through sadness, anger or depression, and you sense they are becoming worn down by your despair, seek a professional to help you heal your broken heart.

Want the One Who Wants You

“If you have to speculate if someone loves you and wants to be with you, chances are they don’t. It’s not that complicated. Love, in most cases, betrays the one feeling it. Don’t waste moments waiting and wondering. Don’t throw away your time dreaming of someone that doesn’t want you. No one is that amazing, certainly not the one who would pass you up.”  Donna Lynn Hope

After a breakup, you might try to get back together with your ex. And if you have sex with him, you might think he wants you back in his life. Don’t become his booty call in hopes that you’ll reconcile. If your ex really wants to reconcile, he will come back for you. You won’t have to guess or wonder if he wants you. You will just know. Don’t waste your time pining away for someone who no longer feels the same about you. You are a prize and you deserve more.

Open Your Heart to Love

“I refuse to let what happened to me make me bitter. I still completely believe in love and I’m open to anything that will happen to me.” – Nicole Kidman

Don’t let heart ache and heartbreak from lost love make you disillusioned and jaded. Make peace with your past. Release negative feelings and energy that are blocking you from feeling love. In doing so, you will once again open your heart to love.

Everything Happens for Your Greater Good

“I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person.” – Rita Mero

Everything happens for your greater good. While it may not seem like it at the time, difficult experiences provide opportunity to learn and grow. It’s from the challenges you face from breaking up and learning to let go that help you become stronger and better. As you become a better you, you’ll attract a guy who is more suited for you.

Trust in a Better Love

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” – Joseph Campbell

When a relationship ends with someone you thought was “the one”, it’s hard to imagine life with anyone else. If you’re in this situation, don’t cling to the notion that there is no one better than him. The reality is, when a relationship ends, it means there is a better relationship for you. In order for this to become reality, you must let the past go in order to make room for the future.

There is Someone Better for You

“When we are in love, we are convinced nobody else will do. But as time goes, others do do, and often do do, much much better.”  Coco J. Ginger

As you heal yourself and once again open to the possibility of love, you will notice men who catch your interest and attention. This is a sign that you are opening up to the probability of someone who is much better for you. Keep the faith that he is on his way to meet you.

During this time, focus on loving yourself by doing things that soothe your soul and thinking kind thoughts about yourself. Stay busy with activities and hobbies you enjoy. Spend time with family and friends who care about your well-being. Get plenty of sleep, exercise, and stay hydrated and nourished. What things are you doing to move forward with more ease?

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  • mary

    what a great article, good advice. I am at the stage where I feel debilitated. I can barely get thru work, taking care of house kids bills. I find that I sit and do nothing as often as I can and my mind just goes in circles, the what ifs, the whats he doing now, the longing the pining. Its quite awful and I would love to have it be over. At this point after living together er for 2 years, then “dating” and 3 break up/make ups, its clear he does not want a committed relationship. and there were so many red flags that I know I was a fool. it is so hard to recover and move on. .

  • Kris

    A few weeks ago, I finally got the peace to let go of a guy I had really liked for a number of years! We were not in a relationship, it was a “situation” where we were friends but had some feelings for each other. In short, I knew it was time to let go when he started just texting me instead of calling me. I did a few sessions of counseling where I had a chance to be open about the situation and my feelings. The counselor helped me process those feelings and provided me practical steps to move forward. Also, journaling has been very therapeutic and a great form of release, like your own personal confidant. Once I’m able to talk about it and release it, I cope better and able to move forward.

    • Dear Kris, I’m glad to know you are at peace with this situation. That is wonderful that the counselor and journaling are helping you heal yourself. Do things that soothe your soul and be kind and gentle to yourself. Love, Janet

  • connie phakedi

    Thank you Janet

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