What to do if You’ve Started Seeing a Guy You Really Like

by Janet Ong Zimmerman on 01/14/2014

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Have you been on multiple dates with the same guy and feel as if things aren’t progressing the way you’d like? Or are you fresh off of the dating scene and in a new relationship? When you’re still getting to know each other and things are still new, you may not know what to do at times. Here are five resources that help when you are feeling uncertain.

Will Having Sex Too Soon Ruin My Relationship?

New relationships are exciting, and there’s big temptation to sleep together early on. Both conventional wisdom and experience show that having sex too soon increases the likelihood of ruining a potential relationship. Here’s why. When a man is interested in a woman, it’s usually about sex at first. Men are wired to chase and it’s in the chase where genuine connection and affection grow. If you have sex too soon and want to be in a committed and lasting relationship, you send the wrong signal and don’t give him the opportunity to know who you really are. It’s in the chase that he gets to know you beyond your physical attributes.

Am I in Love?  The Distinction Between Love, Lust and Infatuation

Are you dating a guy you’re really into? Or are you in a new relationship and not sure if you’re in love? In this situation, it can be easy to confuse love with lust and infatuation since they share intense feelings. Learn the distinctions between love, lust and infatuation to find out where you’re at. And answer 20 questions to know for certain if you’re in love or not.

How to Build a Stronger Connection with My Man

This one book, The Four Agreements, when put into practice will transform the relationship you have with yourself and others. If you are looking to improve your connection with the guy you’re with, the message in this book is simple, yet very profound. When you embrace and live each of the Four Agreements, you will experience personal freedom. These are the four agreements: Be impeccable with your word. Don’t take anything personally. Don’t make assumptions. Always do your best.

Relationship Questions to Ask for Long-Term Commitment

Have you been dating a guy you really like for the past few months? Are you thinking you want to be in a long-term relationship with him? If so, check in with your inner monologue and answer these relationship questions after you have gotten to know him well enough to get a good sense of who he is. Your answers to these relationship questions will confirm whether or not you’re both compatible for the long run.

Why It’s Not Personal

Ever been in a promising relationship where things have been going really well, only to have him say, “It’s not you, it’s me. I want to keep seeing you and also think we should see other people.” When I heard these words, we had been dating exclusively for a few months. My heart sank because I liked him a lot. Our relationship had already gone too far. I wasn’t able to step back and be okay with him being and sleeping with other women. I’ve come to understand that if a relationship doesn’t work out the way you want, or a guy you like doesn’t ask you out again, or your partner criticizes you, it’s not personal. It’s what you make it mean.

If you know of other helpful resources for women who have just started seeing a man they really like, please share them in the comments section. Have suggestions for other topics that will help you enjoy dating more? If so, let me know and I will write about them in future blog posts or in Your Guide to Love.

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