How to Not Lose Your Self Worth Because of Love

by Janet Ong Zimmerman on 03/29/2016

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If you’re like I was, you’ve done things in the name of love that caused you to lose your self-worth.  These things can start in small ways like changing your schedule to accommodate him and spill over into bigger areas like losing a meaningful female friendship because you’re spending every waking moment with him.

Losing yourself in your relationship?  Drifting further away from your girlfriends?  Thinking you’re not good enough?  Or sacrificing your integrity?  If you’ve answered “yes” to any of those questions, then the message in these three articles will help you get back on track to knowing your worth.

What are You Worth?

Getting to the place of knowing your true worth is one of life’s journeys. Settling for less than you deserve, chasing love that isn’t yours, being afraid to speak authentically and being overly concerned with your partner’s thoughts of you are all signs of not knowing your worth.

As a successful woman, I didn’t recognize and honor my full worth until my early 40s. I stayed too long in the wrong relationships and stayed in casual relationships when I really wanted a committed relationship. I made a man my priority when I was just his option. I swallowed my voice when I should have spoken up. I thought I was more worthy if I was in a relationship.

Knowing your worth is a gradual process that only happens with awareness and conscious change.  Answer these questions to learn how you feel and think about yourself.

What Core Values Mean to Love

Core values form the foundation on which we live and conduct ourselves.  When we’re in alignment with our core values, we know the direction our life is heading and what’s important to us.  We experience more peace, self-confidence and well-being.

Without core values, we find ourselves drifting from relationship to relationship or staying in unhealthy relationships and never really feeling fulfilled.  We’ll accept less than we deserve and make decisions because of what our partner said or did rather than who we are and what’s important to us.

If you’d like better results in your love life, take the time to consciously define, clarify and live your core values.  Grab a pencil and paper, and answer these questions.

Five Reasons to Love with Integrity

We tend to journey from relationship to relationship without unpacking the excess baggage of heartaches, sadness, disappointment, anger, etc., accumulated from love. We drag these heavy bags on dates and into relationships, not realizing that the weight of what we carry will keep showing up until we unpack and release.

Unpacking and releasing our inner baggage helps us become better instead of bitter, hopeful instead of fearful, and trust instead of doubt. This is the best way to love. And it opens the way for seeing love in a fresh, positive light for you to be inspired by the possibility of love.

Here are five reasons to love with integrity that will inspire and transform your love life.

Self-worth is essential to having a healthy and fulfilling love life.  The next time you think you’re not good enough or are doubting yourself, remember this, “Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.” ― C. JoyBell C.

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