When life and love are challenging, it’s understandable to shrink back and stay stuck. Yet shrinking back continues the cycle of the same guys and relationships that aren’t right for us. I know what it’s like to shrink and also know what it’s like to thrive when we let courage lead us.
As appreciation for being a part of my community, here is a 2-minute video I created in hopes of inspiring you to be brave so you can move forward to the love you desire. Which quotes inspire you the most?
That was the question I struggled with for months after our breakup in the Spring of 2001. After 5 long years, the stress was too much and I finally broke things off. There were red flags early on in our relationship, but I looked the other way because I was in my early 30s and wanted so much for him to be the one. Although it took me 4 years to let our relationship go, it was still so painful and I felt much regret.
Painful because my life was forever changed. Regret because I would never get married and be with the guy I once hoped could be the one. Painful because our breakup left me feeling uncertain about my future. Regret because I mourned the life that was never meant to be.
Why we question ourselves after things end
We lived together and after moving out, I started to question my decision to break things off. Even though we got to the point where I had enough and knew it was time to leave, and despite the immense stress I felt when we were together, the illusion of love was still there.
After a breakup, amnesia seeps in and can cause us to downplay the problems and struggles that led to the breakup. Instead, our mind gravitates towards remembering the good times — especially when we feel lonely or when we’re not meeting guys we connect with — which gives us the illusion of love.
If you’re the one who ended things and you relate to what I’ve just shared, second guessing yourself is normal. If you truly cared about him, the illusion of love can make you think, “What if things could have been…? What if I could have done or been more…? What if I don’t meet anyone else…?”
Today’s post is from Nick Bastion, a dating and relationship expert. He shares 3 solid signs that reveal if a guy is losing interest…
So you have gone on a date with a guy, things seem to have gone well. You’re excited about the possibilities you imagine can happen if you end up taking things to the next level. You might even see a real possibility of having a future with him, of things really working out.
Except, after the last date you went on, the way he is communicating (well, actually, the way he is not communicating) is making you wonder if he is losing interest in you or not.
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