I was 38 and really liked the guy I was dating. 3 months into our relationship, he said, “I’d like to date other women, but still see you.” Because I liked him a lot, the thought of being one of many women was hurtful. My defenses caused me to say something like, “I’m sorry, that’s not going to work for me.”
My mind automatically imagined the worse. But there was context behind his words that I wasn’t taking into consideration. He was a few years younger than me, had recently moved out here from the Midwest, and a few months into our relationship, a female friend of his came out to visit him. When I wasn’t invited to meet her, I tried to rationalize away the uneasy feelings inside of me.
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Then my mind immediately went to, “I must not be enough if he’s wanting to date other women.” Maybe it was true that I wasn’t exactly what he was looking for, which I equated to not being enough. In hindsight, the story I believed about me not being enough was more likely about him not wanting to get into a serious, committed relationship because of where he was in his life.
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