Dear friends, Michael and I are co-authors of the international best seller Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life. I’m excited to share a wonderful post from him about a valid subject that many women have experienced or may worry about. His perspective will give you insight that may help you know what to do and ease your mind.
How do you keep your man from cheating on you? It’s very simple. Give him everything he needs.
Now I said everything he needs, not everything he wants. There is a difference.
What he wants is bacon or steak for dinner 3-5 times a week. What he wants is for you to do naughty things for him like striptease on a weekly basis. Or have a threesome with the girl on the lingerie billboard every Birthday and Christmas. Not every guy wants that, but some might want that. That doesn’t make him a bad person those are just some of the random things he has thoughts about during his day. Those are his wants. Not his needs.
We all want different things and some things can be abit too much for us to deliver. Let’s face it: You can’t give people everything they want because then you’d be unhappy and exhausted all the time and that would be no fun. Where would you get what you wanted, right? But you can give your partner what they need. When you do, you’ll be more likely to receive what you need in return.
Back to cheating: People, not just men, but people cheat because they aren’t getting what they need in their relationship. We as humans will look for satisfaction in other places if we aren’t fulfilled with what we have. (It’s obvious, no? Just look at food and eating disorders.)
What does your man need?
A Sense of Freedom– Men are programmed to be free. It’s still there in the caveman DNA to want to go out and plant seeds everywhere as much as possible. So while he doesn’t need to plant his seed everywhere literally,he does need room to breathe, some time in the man cave, and a little time apart from you never hurts either. He can’t feel constricted or suppressed. Otherwise, he will seek breaths of fresh air elsewhere; for example, in the arms of another woman.
Your Feminine Beauty–Whether married or committed to you in the long term, he is choosing you. He is choosing you, because he wants to be with you. But what helped make his decision is your beauty. He likes seeing your face. He loves your touch. He wants to see you smile. He wants to see you shine. When you do, you take away the dreary, sometimes monotonous manner of his masculine mission. Feminine energy provides a much needed reprieve to the ‘go and do it and get it done now’ energy that men have. So whether you believe it or not, he sees your essence, your true beauty and that is part of why he loves coming home to you. It brightens up his day. You brighten up his day. Don’t darken it with your clouds of doubt, stress, concern and worry. If you lighten up, he will too!