It was strange because I was very positive in most every area of life, except love. In most of my love life, I would over-analyze what a guy meant and why he did what he did. On occasion, I would imagine something good, but for the most part, my over-thinking mind had the habit of imagining the worst.
What happens when our imagination is overtaken by our monkey minds
As you know, imagining the worst is its own self-fulfilling prophecy and can end up causing great guys to disappear. When your imagination is overtaken by your monkey mind, it’s hard to see things clearly. It’s easy to complicate things which makes you feel doubtful, stressed, and let down.
For decades, love was exhausting and hard because my monkey mind would be in overdrive, making me read more into a situation. Reading more into a situation meant that I would make it mean something bad about myself. It complicated my love life and added unnecessary stress on top of a shaky situation.
Mint chocolate chip ice cream vs. strawberry ice cream
I was 38 and really liked the guy I was dating. 3 months into our relationship, he said, “I’d like to date other women, but still see you.” Because I liked him a lot, the thought of being one of many women was hurtful. And I said something like, “I’m sorry, that’s not going to work for me.”
Then my mind immediately went to, “I must not be enough if he’s wanting to date other women.” Maybe it was true that I wasn’t exactly what he was looking for, which I equated to not being enough.