“Your appearance catches a man’s eyes, but who you are catches his heart.” – Janet Ong Zimmerman
What Turns a Man’s Head Doesn’t Catch His Heart
Men are built to appreciate and look at attractive women. When a man’s head turns every time an attractive woman walks by, you might think that physical appearance is the most important quality he seeks in a woman. While a woman’s physical assets catch a man’s eyes, it’s who she is on the inside that can catch his heart or turn him away. High quality men want more than eye candy and sex. They want a woman who is beautiful on the inside.
Six Ways to Let Your Inner Beauty Shine
It’s still important to put effort into your physical appearance because in order to catch a man’s heart, you need to catch his eyes first. As you’re becoming your best physical self, focus on being just as beautiful on the inside. Here are 6 ways to let your inner beauty shine and catch his heart.
1. Be Confident
Confidence is a very sexy quality in a woman. When you are confident, you give off the aura that you are enough. When you are enough, you approach love from a place of wholeness, and attract men who are mentally, physically and emotionally healthier.
2. Be You
Instead of behaving and acting in ways that you think pleases a man, just be you. A man can sense if you’re comfortable in your own skin. Being comfortable with yourself, quirks and all, helps a man let his guard down. Your quirks make you uniquely you. The right man will find your quirks endearing.
Dating for me was stressful, disappointing and painful at times. Being closed off to some men, judgmental about others, not feeling comfortable being my true self and getting lackluster results kept me from dating with ease. At different moments in my life, the thought of being single for the rest of my life seemed more appealing than dating.
However, my desire to be in a long-term relationship with a wonderful man was greater than my desire to stay single. In hindsight, my lackluster dating experiences were all for my greater good. They helped me learn, grow and date with more ease, eventually leading me to meet my husband.
If you’re having a hard time with dating, taking a different approach may help you enjoy dating with more ease. When you feel more at ease, the energy you radiate will attract higher quality men. Putting these 9 ways to date into practice will help you stay the course and lead you to that special someone.
9 Ways to Date with More Ease
1. Let Go of Expectations
When you’re dating, you may have expectations of how a man should be, how your dates will go, etc. These expectations don’t allow for serendipitous things to happen when you’re focused on how you think things should be. Letting go and being open to possibilities outside of expectations, lets things happen the way they’re supposed to. Instead of holding onto expectations, set intentions, let go and date with more ease. (Note to self: This isn’t about lowering your expectations about the type of men to date.)
2. Be Clear
Being a wishy-washy dater happens when you’re not clear on what’s most important to you. If you’re not clear, you may go out with almost any man or virtually no men. Be clear about what you want in a man and what you want to experience on dates. Knowing what you want helps you stay on track instead of getting sidetracked. (Note to self: Being clear isn’t about being too picky about superficial qualities and traits. If you’re too picky, you may miss out on meeting high quality men.)
A smart woman learns to take the initiative in her professional life, like leading and facilitating team members to complete projects on time, calling meetings to discuss strategy and next steps, and managing multiple priorities. The contributions a smart woman makes to the success of her company often leads to promotions of greater responsibility. If you’re used to taking the initiative in your career, you may have noticed that this approach doesn’t work as well when it comes to dating and romantic relationships.
Why Initiating Doesn’t Work with a Masculine Man
Masculine men love strong women who know when and how to be feminine. Initiating is very much like pursuing, which is a masculine trait. If you’re the one who is constantly calling and texting him, asking when you’ll see him again, making suggestions to go out with him, etc., you’re pursuing him.
A masculine man wants to pursue you on his time. Sometimes when you like a man, you might feel the need to rush things. A man needs space to think about you and miss you. If he is really into you, he won’t let much time pass before contacting you. He’ll call and text you in between dates, make plans in advance to spend time with you, talk about the future with you and introduce you to family and friends.