Dating and Courtship

Why Dating Makes It Hard to Find The One

by Janet Ong Zimmerman on 07/18/2017

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If you’re like most women who’ve been dating for a while, chances are, you find it disappointing, painful, and perhaps even exhausting.  Dating for most women is a means to the end goal of getting into a committed and lasting relationship.  What many don’t realize is the chances of finding the one from dating are slim.

If dating is making it hard to find the one, if dating has become more painful and you’re feeling discouraged and disconnected from love, here’s what I believe and have experienced.

Dating is actually a diversion from Mr. Right and meaningful love.  Since dating has a different meaning for everyone, from hanging out and hooking up to companionship or monogamy, different dating expectations leave more people confused and less people getting what they want.

The distinction between dating and courtship

You may be wondering what the main differences are between dating and courtship.  They have this in common – both involve guys and can look the same on the surface.  But here’s the difference.

People date for different reasons and have different expectations.  Some date because they want something casual.  Others for companionship.  And some because they’re looking for true love.  Different reasons and expectations lead to more people being let down and not getting what they want.

Modern day courtship has a universal meaning with the understanding that both are with each other for the same reason – the intention is if things go well, things will naturally progress into a committed relationship (then engagement, then marriage if that’s what you both want).

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Having a Hard Time Setting Boundaries Because You Don’t Want to Seem Controlling?

by Janet Ong Zimmerman on 06/27/2017

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It can be hard to set boundaries when you want to be seen as carefree and easy-going. But every time you find yourself feeling upset, frustrated, disappointed, or any kind of negative emotion, one of your boundaries have been crossed.

Not setting boundaries causes us to go along with whatever a man wants, even if we don’t want the same. It causes us to swallow our voice when we’re feeling disrespected. If left to continue, we’ll end up guarding our heart and being unable to completely open up to love. And ultimately, it adversely affects our well-being and self-worth.

In this article, How Being the Cool, Laid-Back Girl Can Make You a Total Jerk Magnet, you’ll learn what happens when we don’t set boundaries, how we pursue guys who aren’t meant to be, how having healthy boundaries increases the likelihood for a healthy relationship, 3 specific ways to establish boundaries, and how to enforce boundaries without becoming too controlling.

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How to Know if He Really Likes You

by Janet Ong Zimmerman on 05/23/2017

If you’ve been seeing a man you really like and aren’t sure how he feels about you, what should you do? Or what if you really like a guy, but aren’t sure if he likes you?

In the short video below, you’ll learn specific things to watch for.  You’ll also learn how to ask him if he likes you in a way that lets him respond openly.

That’s just one of the many things I share in the free video series “Let Love In“. You’ll also learn:

  • Why many women seem to have a hard time finding love, and what you can do to simply love.
  • How to know if he is the one for you instead of wasting time on guys who aren’t right for you.
  • What you can do to let love find you, instead of chasing after love or letting things just happen.
  • How you can find love more easily instead of having it be so hard.
  • and much more.

Learn more about letting love in so you can finally move towards the love you desire.

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Does Being Comfortable or Chemistry Matter More?

March 7, 2017
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With such a big emphasis placed on chemistry, it’s easy to underestimate the importance of comfortable.  We end up dating and being in relationships with charismatic men who cause us to jump through hoops when we behave and act in ways that aren’t true to who we are. Intense chemistry kept me from being my true […]

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Reverse the Epidemic in Love with One Shift

September 8, 2016

There’s an epidemic happening where women are doing most of the work which makes love harder than it needs to be.  If you’ve been making more effort and not getting the love you want, you’re probably feeling discouraged and tired.  Learn how love can actually be simplified and easeful by making this one shift in […]

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Is Sexual Gratification Making You Feel Empty Inside?

August 30, 2016
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When you want a meaningful connection to lead to an intimate and fulfilling relationship, having sex early on only increases the probability of a hook up relationship.  If you’re feeling used by guys, lonely, and empty inside, it’s because you’re having sex hoping it will lead to more.  Having sex early on only lets a […]

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What To Do if You Want Meaningful and Lasting Love

August 2, 2016
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When it came to dating guys I really liked, it was hard to truly enjoy the process.  I felt this nervous anticipation because I wanted things to work out, over-analyzed things, misread things, wasn’t able to relax, and had a hard time letting things unfold naturally. Sure, there were times when dating was enjoyable.  When […]

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7 Questions to Ask Before Sleeping with Him

June 14, 2016
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At 29, physical chemistry get the best of me and I found myself in bed with a guy on our second date.  For months after, I cringed every time I thought about that.  You see, I wasn’t the type to just jump into the sack on such short notice.  To understand why that happened, you’d […]

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How to Keep Your New Guy’s Interest

May 31, 2016
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Two scenarios with two different outcomes Ever notice how easy it is to catch and keep the wrong guy’s interest?  When a guy likes you in a romantic way and you don’t feel the same, you don’t care what he thinks of you.  While there’s a part of you that may like the attention, you’re […]

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Are You Hooking Up, Hoping You’ll Be the Exception?

November 10, 2015
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If the thought of hooking up seems exciting and empowering, or if you’re hooking up and wanting to be in a committed relationship, my hope is that the message in this post helps you think differently. There’s actually nothing wrong with hooking up… There’s no shortage of guys to hook up with if that’s what […]

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