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Do You Feel Like Time is Running Out to Find Love?

by Janet Ong Zimmerman on 12/13/2016

When you feel like time is running out to find love, or when you’re getting older and want to find a great man to be in a committed relationship with, learn why staying on track and being honest are the best things you can do.

That’s just one of many insights I share in the Extraordinary Love Video Summit that starts December 19th.  Sign up here to get free access to 50 experts’ insights, resources, and tips on finding your right man so you can create that meaningful love you’ve always desired.

Reserve your spot now in the Extraordinary Love Video Summit so you can stop wasting time on the wrong guys and relationships, and learn how to find true and lasting love.


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Is He The One for You?

by Janet Ong Zimmerman on 05/17/2016

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Why knowing if he’s the one is hard

When you’re with a guy you really like and things seem hopeful, or when you’ve been in a long-term relationship and want things to work out that’s a difficult question to answer.  Yet if you’re looking for a committed relationship with someone you want to spend your life with, knowing the answer within the first 3-6 months is ideal so you don’t spend unnecessary time and energy on something that’s not meant to be.

Hindsight is 20/20 and part of me wishes I had known the importance of answering that question early on.  But things aren’t necessarily ideal — I was the type that learned through trial and error when it came to love.  Knowing what I know now, here’s what I would have told my 20-something year-old self in hopes that it helps you answer that question.

How clearly know if he’s the one

Clarity is the key to knowing the difference between the one for now and the one for always.  The problem with clarity is it’s a catch 22.  Since you’re the one in your situation, it’s hard to be objective which makes it hard to see things clearly.

So, how can you see clearly while in the situation?  By being very aware of what’s going on in these areas.

  • The thoughts you have about the guy you’re with and your relationship
  • The way you feel from having those thoughts
  • The dynamics of your relationship and how they fit (or don’t fit) with your values
  • How he treats you and how you feel about that

Being aware means being present to “what is” so you connect with your true feelings instead of talking yourself into someone that isn’t right for you.

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Why Clarity is Essential to Getting the Love You Want

by Janet Ong Zimmerman on 10/27/2015

Why love seems hard and what you can do

The reason love seems hard is because when the wrong men, dates, and relationships happen to us, it’s easy to become disappointed, frustrated, and even jaded.  When those emotions can wear away at our self esteem and self worth, making us feel powerless in getting the love we desire.

If you’ve been feeling powerless, I’d like you to know that love doesn’t have to happen to you.  You have the power to create what you want.  If you don’t yet have the love you desire, one reason is you’re not clear on what you want and are sending mixed signals to the Universe, higher power, or God.

The love you want starts by getting crystal clear on what you want, then taking action and choosing in favor of your wants.  To help you get clear, included are three reference sheets below to download with guided questions, suggestions, and helpful information.

Define and live your core values

Core values influence everything you do or don’t and may not be in your awareness yet. They are standards that greatly influence your behavior, attitude and character. These values are deeply personal and affect your emotional and mental disposition. Since these values guide you in making decisions and affect your relationships, it’s important to clearly know what they are.

If you’d like better results in your love life, take the time to consciously define, clarify and live your core values. Grab a pencil and paper, and answer these questions.

Create and set boundaries

Boundaries are so powerful that when set and enforced, will help you create the love you desire. It’s not enough just to create boundaries. Creating boundaries without enforcing them is like telling a guy it is too soon for you to have sex and then continuing to make out.

Boundaries are meant to be enforced and will open the door for love to come your way. Enforcing boundaries comes down to who you’re being, which teaches others how to treat you. If you’re honoring your own boundaries, others will too. Here are 5 specific ways to create boundaries.

Create a powerful vision board

Your brain will work tirelessly to achieve the statements you give your subconscious mind. And when those statements are the affirmations and images of your goals, you are destined to achieve them.

Creating a vision board is probably one of the most valuable visualization tools available to you. This powerful tool serves as your image of the future – a tangible representation of where you are going. It represents your dreams, your goals, and your ideal life. Here are suggestions on creating an empowering vision board.

An alternative to a vision board is to create an alter or space where you have objects representing your vision of love. In addition, you could have a scented candle, music, etc.

Take time to get clear on your core values, boundaries and vision.  In doing to, you’ll create the experience of love you desire.

What is your main takeaway after watching the video and looking at the reference sheets?

If you’ve found this type of blog post to be helpful (i.e. video with reference sheets), please let me know in the comments, and I’ll include more of these.


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Lessons Learned On My Journey to Love

April 14, 2015
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Love is very individual and experiential.  We tend to learn how to love the hard way – by making mistakes and hopefully learning from them.  We all have lessons we’re meant to learn based on where we’re at and where we are meant to be.  The distance between these two places are bridged by the […]

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Make Peace with Your Past to Create a Loving Future

February 11, 2014
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History will repeat itself with variations of the same men and relationships that keep showing up when you’re not at peace with your past. The disappointment, regret, shame, anxiety, depression, stress, etc., that ensue from living like this will keep you stuck in the past. Reliving your past in the present will give you a […]

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Why You Attract Who You Attract

June 4, 2013
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Do you tend to attract the same type of men or find yourself in the same relationship with different men? If so, here’s an explanation of why this happens. The universe brings the right person at the right time based on where you’re at with your level of consciousness and where you need to grow […]

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10 Love Resolutions for the Single Woman

January 29, 2013
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Love can be simple or complex. When a woman lets her love life run on autopilot, love becomes complex. If you’d like to simplify love, take a conscious approach by setting and following resolutions. Set your own resolutions or start with these 10 and simplify your love life. 1. Become Better Become better by taking […]

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Use Your Heart to Choose Who to Love

November 6, 2012
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Infatuation catches your eye while love catches your heart. What is infatuation? Infatuation is like an innocent fantasy that we imagine to be love. It’s when we’re in love with the idea of love. It starts at a young age with “puppy love” or a “crush” on someone and continues into adulthood. Infatuation tends to […]

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10 Secrets to Finding True Love

October 9, 2012
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Timeless Wisdom Dr. Wayne Dyer is one of my favorite teachers of all time. His book, 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace, is timeless, full of wisdom and provides a simple guide for living an inspired life. In the spirit of love and sharing Dr. Dyer’s message, here is my perspective on how his […]

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True Soulmates Don’t Meet Our Every Wish and Need

September 11, 2012
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The Romantic Notion of a Soul Mate Idealistic views carried over from our youth have us believing that a soul mate is someone who meets our every wish and need. This definition which represents similar definitions found online, reinforces our idealistic and naïve views. “A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment […]

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