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When you’re with a guy you really like and things seem hopeful, or when you’ve been in a long-term relationship and want things to work out that’s a difficult question to answer. Yet if you’re looking for a committed relationship with someone you want to spend your life with, knowing the answer within the first 3-6 months is ideal so you don’t spend unnecessary time and energy on something that’s not meant to be.
Hindsight is 20/20 and part of me wishes I had known the importance of answering that question early on. But things aren’t necessarily ideal — I was the type that learned through trial and error when it came to love. Knowing what I know now, here’s what I would have told my 20-something year-old self in hopes that it helps you answer that question.
How clearly know if he’s the one
Clarity is the key to knowing the difference between the one for now and the one for always. The problem with clarity is it’s a catch 22. Since you’re the one in your situation, it’s hard to be objective which makes it hard to see things clearly.
So, how can you see clearly while in the situation? By being very aware of what’s going on in these areas.
The thoughts you have about the guy you’re with and your relationship
The way you feel from having those thoughts
The dynamics of your relationship and how they fit (or don’t fit) with your values
How he treats you and how you feel about that
Being aware means being present to “what is” so you connect with your true feelings instead of talking yourself into someone that isn’t right for you.
The reason love seems hard is because when the wrong men, dates, and relationships happen to us, it’s easy to become disappointed, frustrated, and even jaded. When those emotions can wear away at our self esteem and self worth, making us feel powerless in getting the love we desire.
If you’ve been feeling powerless, I’d like you to know that love doesn’t have to happen to you. You have the power to create what you want. If you don’t yet have the love you desire, one reason is you’re not clear on what you want and are sending mixed signals to the Universe, higher power, or God.
The love you want starts by getting crystal clear on what you want, then taking action and choosing in favor of your wants. To help you get clear, included are three reference sheets below to download with guided questions, suggestions, and helpful information.
Define and live your core values
Core values influence everything you do or don’t and may not be in your awareness yet. They are standards that greatly influence your behavior, attitude and character. These values are deeply personal and affect your emotional and mental disposition. Since these values guide you in making decisions and affect your relationships, it’s important to clearly know what they are.
If you’d like better results in your love life, take the time to consciously define, clarify and live your core values. Grab a pencil and paper, and answer these questions.
Create and set boundaries
Boundaries are so powerful that when set and enforced, will help you create the love you desire. It’s not enough just to create boundaries. Creating boundaries without enforcing them is like telling a guy it is too soon for you to have sex and then continuing to make out.
Boundaries are meant to be enforced and will open the door for love to come your way. Enforcing boundaries comes down to who you’re being, which teaches others how to treat you. If you’re honoring your own boundaries, others will too. Here are 5 specific ways to create boundaries.
Create a powerful vision board
Your brain will work tirelessly to achieve the statements you give your subconscious mind. And when those statements are the affirmations and images of your goals, you are destined to achieve them.
Creating a vision board is probably one of the most valuable visualization tools available to you. This powerful tool serves as your image of the future – a tangible representation of where you are going. It represents your dreams, your goals, and your ideal life. Here are suggestions on creating an empowering vision board.
An alternative to a vision board is to create an alter or space where you have objects representing your vision of love. In addition, you could have a scented candle, music, etc.
Take time to get clear on your core values, boundaries and vision. In doing to, you’ll create the experience of love you desire.
What is your main takeaway after watching the video and looking at the reference sheets?
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