5 Healthy Ways to Attract and Keep a Man’s Attention

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When a woman first meets a special man, it’s as if she’s floating on air and the stars are aligned. Birds sing, the sun shines brighter and everything seems perfect. As time goes on, she senses his attention waning towards her. It’s at this stage where she makes the fatal mistake of trying harder. She initiates more, and behaves and acts in ways she thinks pleases him so that he will be interested again. But…what really happens?

Are You Trying Too Hard?

Most of us have been this woman. A woman who tries too hard turns men off because in the act of trying too hard, she devalues herself in ways like putting up with his insensitive behaviors, chasing after him, not questioning red flags, agreeing to things she doesn’t feel good about it, sacrificing her integrity and eventually becoming his doormat. If you are in this situation or tend to behave in the above ways, you are teaching a man to devalue you and treat you poorly.

Stop trying so hard. Let him come to you. Men are wired to place a higher value on things they have to work for, which includes winning a woman’s love and affection. This isn’t about playing games. It’s about letting a man be the man and letting yourself relax instead of trying so hard.

Relax and Let Him Come to You

Relaxing has multiple benefits. When you relax, you get to choose instead of chase. This lets you see him for who is really is. You get to see if you are interested in him or the idea of him, notice and respond to red flags, and enjoy the journey more. Instead of thinking of ways to catch his interest, consider this alternative, healthier approach.

Five Healthy Ways to Catch and Keep His Attention

These seemingly counterintuitive ways to have a man’s attention may be different than what you’re used to. If you haven’t yet found the way to attract and keep a man’s interest, practicing these five healthy ways will bring you positive results.

1. Let yourself be wooed

In this day and age, many men and women tend to hang out and hook up. Some women initiate and pursue, rather than responding to men. Instead of rushing things, take time to get to know each other before having sex. In doing so, he will experience and connect with you at a deeper level instead of just a woman to have sex with.

2. Live your life

Don’t put your life on hold because you’re waiting around for his calls or for him to ask you out. Live your life. Do things you love. Discover new passions. If he doesn’t enjoy some of your interests, do them without him, with yourself or someone else. Spend time alone and with friends and family.

3. Reveal and share slowly

When you really like a man, you might feel the need to let him know everything about you in a short period of time. Some things are better left unspoken. A little mystery is good. Let conversations and subjects take their natural course instead of prematurely forcing and rushing.

4. Be secure in yourself

Know your worth by determining and honoring what you will and won’t accept from a man and relationship. Determine and live your core values. When you know your worth, men will treat you with respect.

5. Be genuine

When you’re worried about what he is going to think or do, you’ll behave and act in ways that are not who you are. Ultimately, you want to be with a man who will love the real you (the good, the quirky and the not so good). The only way to have this is to behave and act in ways that let you feel comfortable in your own skin.

Try Less, Have More

Trying too hard comes across as desperation, which is never an attractive quality to men. In the short term, it may keep men who aren’t good for you around, the kind of men who take advantage of you and treat you poorly. To keep a high quality man, try less and have more happiness, love, peace and his attention. What are some other healthy ways that you’ve kept a man’s interest?

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