Why love seems hard and what you can do

The reason love seems hard is because when the wrong men, dates, and relationships happen to us, it's easy to become disappointed, frustrated, and even jaded.  When those emotions can wear away at our self esteem and self worth, making us feel powerless in getting the love we desire.

If you've been feeling powerless, I'd like you to know that love doesn't have to happen to you.  You have the power to create what you want.  If you don't yet have the love you desire, one reason is you're not clear on what you want and are sending mixed signals to the Universe, higher power, or God.

The love you want starts by getting crystal clear on what you want, then taking action and choosing in favor of your wants.  To help you get clear, included are three reference sheets below to download with guided questions, suggestions, and helpful information.

Define and live your core values

Core values influence everything you do or don’t and may not be in your awareness yet. They are standards that greatly influence your behavior, attitude and character. These values are deeply personal and affect your emotional and mental disposition. Since these values guide you in making decisions and affect your relationships, it’s important to clearly know what they are.

If you’d like better results in your love life, take the time to consciously define, clarify and live your core values. Grab a pencil and paper, and answer these questions.

Create and set boundaries

Boundaries are so powerful that when set and enforced, will help you create the love you desire. It’s not enough just to create boundaries. Creating boundaries without enforcing them is like telling a guy it is too soon for you to have sex and then continuing to make out.

Boundaries are meant to be enforced and will open the door for love to come your way. Enforcing boundaries comes down to who you’re being, which teaches others how to treat you. If you’re honoring your own boundaries, others will too. Here are 5 specific ways to create boundaries.

Create a powerful vision board

Your brain will work tirelessly to achieve the statements you give your subconscious mind. And when those statements are the affirmations and images of your goals, you are destined to achieve them.

Creating a vision board is probably one of the most valuable visualization tools available to you. This powerful tool serves as your image of the future - a tangible representation of where you are going. It represents your dreams, your goals, and your ideal life. Here are suggestions on creating an empowering vision board.

An alternative to a vision board is to create an alter or space where you have objects representing your vision of love. In addition, you could have a scented candle, music, etc.

Take time to get clear on your core values, boundaries and vision.  In doing to, you'll create the experience of love you desire.

What is your main takeaway after watching the video and looking at the reference sheets?

If you've found this type of blog post to be helpful (i.e. video with reference sheets), please let me know in the comments, and I'll include more of these.